How to Balance Your Energy to Achieve Your Goals with Angie Besignano [Transcript]

Maryalice Goldsmith:

Hey, everyone. Welcome to today’s Coach’s Corner. I am super excited to be here with you today. And today I’m going to introduce you to one of our brand new coaches, Angie. Angie B or Angie Besignano. Angie, super excited to talk with you today. How are you?

Angie Besignano:

I am awesome. I’m excited to be here. Can’t wait. All the energy’s building right now, which is perfect because that’s kind of like where we’re going, right? So yeah.

Maryalice Goldsmith:

Good. I like how you just dropped that. Very slick.

Angie Besignano:

I love it.

Maryalice Goldsmith:

Angie’s a fellow Jersey girl with me, so when we were interviewing her, we were connecting all the dots of where we used to hang out when we were teenagers and all the good stuff. So really funny.

Why don’t you just give us, since it’s your first podcast, give us a little briefing of where you come from, some of your experience, things like that.

Who is Angie?

Angie Besignano:

Yeah. So I would be really upsetting KC right now if I didn’t first mention that I was born and raised up until I was 13 in Staten Island, New York, which KC and I have in common, and then moved to New Jersey. And I’ve been living in Arizona for five and a half years already. I can’t even believe it. And everybody hears me joke, like, I’m living on the sun now because it’s hot.

Maryalice Goldsmith:

Very hot. Yeah.

Angie Besignano:

But I’ve been in the whole human development arena in various positions with doing different things for 30 now. It’s 35 years. I’ve hit my 35 years in this. And funny, because I was doing things that were who knew that 35 years later, that everything that I was doing unbeknownst to me, would be like, where people are making money and actually have businesses, like, didn’t see it coming. And honestly, if I had, I would have done a few things differently, for sure. Would be following me. That’s all I’m going to say. Got it.

Maryalice Goldsmith:

Well, it may seem like a fun thing, but it’s not so easy either. You need a really good team like we have here to support all that. But that’s another podcast.

Angie Besignano:

Yeah. Stay tuned.

Maryalice Goldsmith:

Today we’re going to be talking about the four fundamentals of energy and why that matters, how to use it properly, how to assess where your energy is. This is a great topic. I think it’s really an important topic, especially if you’re an entrepreneur, because tuning into your energy is critical for endurance and for sustainability as you grow and build your business. And so I’d love to first talk about what are the four fundamentals of energy?

What are the four fundamentals of energy?

Angie Besignano:

Yeah. So the first thing that I think everybody has to realize when we start talking about energy and if you just even use the word, there’s something that pops into people’s minds. For most people, it’s oh, physical, right? How they view energy. And what I always tell people is energy is where an unbalanced life literally begins. So when people are like, I teach people how to do balance and all of that, I go, okay, so where does the energy piece fit into that?

So why is because the four fundamentals are our physical energy, our mental energy, emotional and spiritual, which I get a little bit of feedback on because I’ve had people say, well, I’m not very spiritual. I will define those as we progress. But it’s not always about what you assume it to be. Most people assume that spiritual energy has religion based or is religious based, and that’s not always the case.

Maryalice Goldsmith:

Yeah. All right, so let’s break these down. Let’s first talk about the physical aspect of energy and what that actually means.

Angie Besignano:

So it is woods pretty obvious, right? We always think, what is our physical energy? And it’s how we feel every day physically. Ask yourself: Are we getting enough sleep? Are we feeling tired? Are we resting? And rest and sleep are not the same. So there’s a lot of ways for us to check in on that. But it really is just basically like how do you physically feel every day? Aches and pains or dehydration? Those are all some of the physical elements that go into how we feel physically every day.

Maryalice Goldsmith:

Okay. And then the mental aspect of energy.

Angie Besignano:

So this is very sensory based, our mental energy. It’s our thoughts, it’s our beliefs. And this is important because it’s such a hot topic, is our self talk. What do we tell ourselves every day? And it’s interesting because our self talk starts at the very beginning of our day. So the minute you become conscious before, sometimes you even open your eyes, what’s your first thought? Right? Is it something positive? Or is it like, oh, my back is killing me. Well, guess what? That is the underlying tone and theme for the rest of your day. So where we go mentally and how we show up mentally is based on what we do literally before we’re out of the bed in the morning. And it is all about thoughts, beliefs, self talk again, just to name a few.

Maryalice Goldsmith:

Yeah, I mean, what do they say? We have like 80,000 thoughts a day?

Angie Besignano:

Yes. And now that’s increasing because of how our brains are now. No PhD at the end of my last name, but I’m always looking for new information. And because of how we use technology, we are forced our brains are being forced to keep up with the speed of technology. So what people were doing 40 years ago, their brains were much greater rest. We don’t really have that. And we tend to suffer. Other areas of energy tend to feel the ramifications of that as well. So yeah, that number is climbing every year. Yeah.

Maryalice Goldsmith:

And then there’s the emotional aspect of energy.

Angie Besignano:

Yeah. So this is like, how do you feel? Right? How do you feel about things? Are you sad? Are you happy? And this is huge because this is where regulation this is where some of our knee jerk reactions will happen. Regulation is key, and it’s very challenging because we have to kind of recognize that an emotion exists in order to regulate it. And it could be even happy. I have to regulate my emotional energy all of the time. Anybody who is a coach or a speaker, we have to regulate after a session with somebody. If somebody is really super high energy, we have to regulate. We have to be able to bring ourselves back to baseline so that we’re not always high seat, we’re not always rushing to the next thing. So that’s a really big one as well.

Maryalice Goldsmith:

And then the spiritual aspect of energy.

Angie Besignano:

So I do I get a lot of pushback on this when I bring it up in a workshop or something. I’ve had a lot of people say, Well, I’m not religious, because that is generally where people go initially when you say, well, what’s your spiritual energy like? And they’re like, well, I’m not religious. Okay, but spiritual is not just about God or some greater deity, right? It’s what are you engaging in that is at a higher level than you? It could be nature. There are people who become very spiritual if you just leave them by a brook in the woods, by themselves, with no phone.

All of a sudden there’s this awakening that there’s something else. And that’s what that spiritual piece. It can be about religion, of course, but it’s not just that. Even if you are a very religious person, it’s not just that. It’s other ways that you find peace, tranquility, and a lot of times moral compass. What is it that you believe in that makes you be the person that you are in your integrity, too?

Maryalice Goldsmith:

Yeah, I mean, I think we all have a soul, right? Whatever feeds your soul or makes you be in the moment is really that spiritual aspect, which not many of us are good at just being in the moment because of all the distraction. But I love how all of these tie in to the other, because you mentioned, like, physical. If you wake up in the morning and you say, oh, my back hurts, that kind of sets the tone for the day, right? And then that kind of weighs heavily on your mental state of mind, which then weighs heavy on your emotions.

But the way to course correct all of this is to tap into the spiritual aspect of your energy. So it’s an interesting if you look at it, it’s a very interesting web, if you will, that if you’re using these in conjunction with one another or one’s going to build on the other, or one’s going to drain the other. But that spiritual piece is the one thing that can bring back your energy.

Angie Besignano:

So the interesting thing about the spiritual piece, too, that I talk about often is that it’s you, right. You could go sit in a church, or you could go sit by that brook, but if you’re not allowing, if you’re not energetically open enough to it, you’re disconnecting from yourself. And that’s, I think, what a lot of people miss. I usually give people I’m very visual, and I usually give people the example. I say, you know what? Think of your energy, your personal energy as a boat, right? It’s perfectly intact. There’s no holes. It’s well built. Great materials of our bodies are amazing.

The way we are built is like miracle. It’s amazing. But here’s the thing. It’s like any boat, think of it as a lifeboat. Even if there’s too much emphasis in your life in one area, even if it’s good, what happens is you’re creating that imbalance, and the best of boats will capsize. If it’s built for 50 people and all 50 people are on one side of the boat, it’s regardless of not having holes and being perfectly intact, it will capsize. And we tend to call that burnout. But it’s the exact same concept.

So we really have to create intention around all of the energy, and that’s how we create balance in our lives. So many people are suffering, especially nowadays. Everybody needs bigger, better, stronger, faster, but our bodies are still built the same, and we’re really putting a great tax on ourselves to keep up with all of that. And it happens essentially by accident. We’re just growing with the times or the world, with our jobs, our family. I have one kid. I have five kids. Things change.

But we have to if we want balance, we have to create that intentionally.

Maryalice Goldsmith:

So for someone who’s listening and they’re like, yeah, well, that sounds really great. And balance and burnout and work life balance and self care and all of that, how can we look at these four different areas of energy and stop fighting against them and start working with them so that we don’t have that situation where we’re capsizing? Because you kind of mentioned this before, even happy things can be extreme. You think about bringing home your baby from the hospital, right. You just have this brand new baby. It’s super exciting. It’s like such happiness and joy. But that could also capsize the boat in the spiritual depletion, the energetic or emotional depletion. Because you’re giving forth so much of this baby.

We could say similar to growing a business, right? You are so excited about growing a business. You’re putting forth so much energy into becoming a speaker that maybe other aspects of your life, relationships, health, your medical care, that could be capsizing. So how does one, the person that’s listening, they’re building the business, they’re running a home, they have children, how do they work with all of these things to make sure that their boat stays stable?

How do you balance your energy?

Angie Besignano:

Yeah, because when we talk about it, in theory, it all sounds great. I think that the very first thing, and I think this is the mistake that we all make when we recognize, or sometimes we don’t, is that we really do have to look at things and say I recognize that there’s an imbalance right now. I recognize. And how do we know? Well, I don’t know. If you plop into bed and you are exhausted at the end of the day, you need to pay attention to that. And are you getting enough sleep?

It’s so funny there’s this fallacy, I don’t know who started it or when it started, but there was this idea that the older you get, the less sleep you get you need. And that is 1000% not true. Adults like us who are busy, whether you’re a professional and busy, or you are like a new mom or a new parent or somebody bringing home that baby, you are basically going to be getting taxed.

And you know that. And you really have to take that step and say, okay, what do I really need the most? So it’s really about being honest with yourself and not making little like I call them the deals with the devil because they don’t work. I promise I’m going to start going to bed early and I’m going to get enough sleep. We need eight to 9 hours of sleep per night. If you are a high functioning person, eight to nine, it’s not six because you’re 70 anymore. That’s not even true. So it’s really number one. First and foremost, all of the energies, the thing that will affect all of the energy is sleep.

It is absolutely the sleep piece. And I’ve had I’ve experienced clients and students and people that will say, well, I’m a surgeon, I operate off of 6 hours a night, please don’t do my surgery. Because think about that. Would you trust somebody to do any kind of procedure on you that wasn’t keeping some kind of balance. And how do you even know that? But I’ve really had so many high level professionals say, well, I’m expected to do this, I can do it. I’m used to it. Your body never gets used to it. So the first thing is to really tap into your sleep habits and check on them, right? Everybody’s got a watch.

Now look at the watch and say, okay, yeah, I’m only averaging 6 hours a night because if I don’t have the proper not rest, but if I don’t have the proper amount of sleep, everything else I do. And I can assure myself of this, it is scientifically factual that I will never do my very best. That’s a story. Okay? So that’s number one is accepting that your sleep is the one thing that you need to create and protect a boundary with. You have to do that. And then once we kind of get that into and it’s huge. It is probably one of the most challenging spaces that I’ve ever, as a coach, ever experienced with clients. Is that pushback? Like no, I’m fine.

And then I kind of say, well, humor me. Do it, do it for 14 days and then tell me how do you feel then and now? And hands down, it’s like, I can’t believe this being big miracle happened. Like, I can’t believe I feel so much better. So that’s like really the first thing, right? Because it’s not all about theory, it’s what are the actions. And then we really need to look at each area very specifically and intentionally and most of all, honestly, and say, first of all, what habits do I have that are supporting that area? Right?

So for something like the physical, we’re working on sleep and basics, nutrition and hydration. Then we can go into the mental. What are you doing at the end of the night? I have a little exercise that I do with students and I learned it from one of my mentors. It’s the three, two, one theory before bed.

What’s the 3,2,1 theory?

Angie Besignano:

No eating 3 hours before. No watching TV or working. I’m sorry. No working 2 hours before and 1 hour before. No electronics, no phones, no screens. Second biggest challenge because how you go to sleep, what you’re absorbing is what you’re going to put out. Not just physically like they say, you are what you eat. And yes, that’s true.

If you eat garbage, you’re going to feel like garbage. If you ingest garbage visually, pretty much that’s going to be your mindset. I was at a hockey game the other day and they were playing this crazy music. I was like, really? They’re playing this? And it was like angry. I’m like, no wonder these guys are hitting each other. You’re enforcing this by putting this this isn’t Rocky two motivator here. This is like get angry and go throw them up against the glass anyway. But it’s kind of a little funny thing but what you take in is what is going you’re like a sponge.

It’s what you’re going to absorb and excrete. That’s what you’re going to give off. The regulation that I spoke about with emotional space, this is a little trickier because a lot of people do have traumas that some of them don’t even realize they’re holding on to. They don’t realize why they wake up feeling down or they don’t understand why they’re angry or why they have certain triggers. So obviously we try to keep the therapy piece out because that’s not what I do, right?

My thinking is, how do you regulate? How do you check in on yourself and say, am I receiving information? And I tell people, ask yourself, is that true? Like the stories, the beliefs, is it true? Because you’re getting your feelings based on your thoughts and how you’re receiving information? It could be something as silly as a boss and a team member, and the boss might say, hey, Angie, can you do this for me? If I’m not in a good emotional space, I could very easily take that personally. And there goes that relationship, there goes the communication. So the first thing that I tell people is to say, you know what? Is that really true? Check in on it and be, yeah.

Maryalice Goldsmith:

Yeah, no, that’s really good. I read a book years ago. It ended up being one of my favorite books. It’s called The Rhythm of Life by Matthew Kelly, and he talks about your physical, spiritual, intellectual and emotional needs, and every human being has them. So he just swapped out mental for intellectual. And I think anyone who’s listening who really wants to try to learn themselves, I know people who say, I don’t know, I’m just not tuned into myself like you are. I couldn’t pick that up. And so it is a skill to really practice something like this to understand, why do I feel off?

So just for a couple of years, every time when I journaled, I just wrote, like, how am I going to meet my physical, intellectual, emotional and spiritual needs for that day? And it started making me very keenly aware of the needs that I have in those four areas and how I am or am not fulfilling them.

Angie Besignano:

Right.

Maryalice Goldsmith:

Because it’s not for other people to fulfill them, it’s for yourself to fulfill them first. So I think if anyone who’s listening is like, I want to figure out a way to get more in tune with myself, to increase my energy in a positive way. That’s a really simple exercise of just asking yourself, how are you going to meet these four energetic foundational needs of your body, your mind, your soul, each and every day? 

It doesn’t have to be life changing. It could be super simple, right? It’s like, I don’t know, set an alarm on your phone every hour, on the hour, and take a deep breath. Believe it or not, we don’t do that. So I think keep it really simple. But you will see a shift in your energy when you start paying attention to this, which then allows you to show up better in all aspects of your life, which is really important.

How do you make changes to meet your energy needs?

Angie Besignano:

Well, your point is very valid, though it has to be intentional. So this is the funny thing, right? As high performing people, our students are either expanding on an existing business speaking business, or they’re launching one. And I think what happens is when you get that excitement, right, that adrenaline, it’s like, yeah, this is awesome. And I think the important thing to remember is that we need to treat our energy and our energetic goals. You have to have them as intentionally as we do our business goals. We spend so much time creating all of these goals and learning the how to’s. And of course that is absolutely important. You need it, right? You can have great energy and no business plan, and that’s not going to work either.

However, the failure comes from not taking care of yourself at the human level. You are human before you are any role that you play. And if you’re able to intentionally create the goals and you’re talking about keeping them simple, the thing that people forget is they compound. So before you know it, you might do one small thing like making sure you’re drinking X amount of ounces of water per day.

So now there’s a lot of controversy over how long does it take to create a habit. Essentially, if you do the same thing every day for 14 days, it can become just as normal as brushing your teeth, right? And then you choose the next that’s going to compound. So I also wanted to say, too negating the idea that they have to quit something before they start something. If you start something, you will automatically negate what’s the opposite of not brushing your teeth? I’m going to brush my teeth for 14 days.

People say, oh, I have to quit doing this. No. What do you do instead? What is the goal? And they have to be definitive, right. With timelines, of course, but also with the boundaries that we utilize to protect them. That is where I feel like where it gets lost a little bit is because nobody sets a boundary. I tell people, don’t make a commitment. If I asked you to make this as a vow, would that change it for you? And generally it does. Why? Because there is more power in the word vow than there is in commitment.

So even changing some of the words make it more serious. But you’re exactly 100% right. Definitely keeping it simple. And we don’t have to swing for the fences right out of the gate or do too many at once, right? Because that’s when we have the overwhelm. And then we just keep telling we’re reinforcing the idea that we’re just going to fail.

Maryalice Goldsmith:

Yeah, I think too, it’s just like for people who haven’t practiced this, just to get into a small practice of awareness around these four elements is really important because I think this is where we often make mistakes when we try to create new habits. It’s like you’re saying we feel this need to change everything, and that adds actually more emotional overwhelm, which drains energy. And the whole goal here is to sustain and ramp up energy in the easiest ways possible. And so I think if you’re not aware of these four aspects for yourself, that’s the first part. Don’t try to change it, just become aware of it. Even if you wake up tomorrow and you’re like, oh, my back hurts. Don’t be like, oh my gosh, I shouldn’t have said that. Now my days.

No, just like, oh wow, that’s interesting. I just said, that very interesting. So get really curious about the things that you’re saying. Get really curious about your routines that you already have in place. So before you change everything, figure out.

Angie Besignano:

What you already have in place.

Maryalice Goldsmith:

Some of the stuff actually may be working. There just might be some small tweaks here and there for me. I’m a pen and paper person. I know you are too. I love writing stuff down. So, like, I got 8 hours of sleep. I’m curious about how I feel today. Right.

Or my mindset is really good. I’m excited to face this day. I’m curious about how the day is going to go today. Emotionally, I had a great dinner with my husband, and we had great conversations. So I feel so full. Emotionally or spiritually, I had a great meditation or a great prayer. When you look at those things that you’ve done and oh my gosh, at the end of the day, you had an amazing day. Well, that’s something to tune into.

Angie Besignano:

Right?

Maryalice Goldsmith:

And then on the days that you didn’t have an amazing day and you go and you check those four areas, there might be so much valuable information to help you change those small little tweaks that prevented that from being a great day or zapping your energy.

Why it’s important to journal/track your energy levels.

Angie Besignano:

I love what you said though, too. I just want to say this because a lot of people are very journal averse. Like, they go, I don’t have time for that. And I say, okay, wait a minute, let me see your calendar. I guarantee you have time. But the best time to really do that is you can actually set the intention for the next day, that night. And the way that you do that is not to beat yourself up over a bad day right. Or an emotional reaction to something.

It’s to just look at something and say, what went really well today in my energy? What went well? This was great. Like you’re saying, and then give yourself the opportunity to say, okay, what’s one thing that I could do better tomorrow than I did today. And maybe it’s having a conversation that’s difficult, some communication or being nicer to yourself. Gosh, like, sit next to yourself on a park bench for a minute and give love. Because we’re harder on ourselves than anybody could ever be on us. And just make that small commitment. When you go to close that book or put that paper away or however you’re doing it, and you close your eyes, you will have a more restful sleep. And when you wake up, you already know your goal.

There’s no scrambling for like, all right, so what do I really need to do today for me, from that energy space, you’re already preparing for that, and I think that’s important. It’s like doing the action and putting it somewhere. Because when we write, that’s a stronger commitment and even than when we type. I know many people just keep everything on a tablet or a phone, and that’s fine. But no matter what age or demographic you are in, there is power in actually taking a pen or a pencil and writing something.

Something you said earlier, too, I wanted to just tap into super quick. You said, oh, if we try, one of the first words that I eliminate when I’m working with is anybody a student or anybody. And I say, well, are you going to try or will you? Right, because if I’m the CEO of a company and I say, I have this important project, I need it done by Friday, and I tell that person, Well, I’ll try, I’m probably going to be out of a job quickly.

So it’s just really about using the word I will, even if it’s I will do my best, but try. We’re already giving ourselves the escape route to get out. So anyway yeah, for sure.

Maryalice Goldsmith:

I just wanted you to hit those.

Angie Besignano:

Things and I wanted to jump on that.

Maryalice Goldsmith:

Yeah, no, it’s all great. So I’d love to just address why this even matters to our students who are listening or potential students that are listening. Like this whole energy thing, it’s great. It’s fun to talk about. It could be interesting. But I care because why?

Why should you care about balancing your energy?

Angie Besignano:

So I’ve been really thinking about that, and what I really came up with is that, again, for students that are expanding an existing business or for students that are here launching a new business, we give you the greatest tools. And I’m not saying that because I’m a coach, right? I wouldn’t be able to coach into it if I didn’t believe it. So I’m here for that. And I think that the truth of the matter is that it’s still a business and there’s still the chance of failure. And I will say not. But energy is statistically why people don’t fail because they don’t know what they’re doing. They don’t fail because they didn’t get it right. Henry Ford’s first car might as.

Well have had triangular wheels on it. And he’s amazing because he never looked at it like, what did I do wrong? He literally said, what can I do? Did he failed forward? Which is not failure at all. So the idea here is that you really need to be able to have that gumption to forge ahead when every little piece doesn’t fit right. Everything that doesn’t work isn’t a failure. But if you don’t have the mental energy to wrap your head around that or to try again or to do something a little different, that’s the failure is that they stop trying. Most of them. Any business that fails, most of them fail. If it’s not external, like economics or something like that, it is usually like 70% of the time.

Not my statistic. Department of labor in the US. I don’t want to speak like I know what I’m talking about without knowing, right, is basically because people, they quit. They quit. We don’t want you to quit. We want you to look at what isn’t working and be energized by it and take that air quotes that failure forward. But you need the energy to do that. You need to be strong, tough.

There needs to be grit. You could be speaking on the softest topic, like how to swaddle your baby. What’s more beautiful than swaddling a baby? Not much. Okay. But if it’s not going the way you want, it’s not time to quit. You need to be able to have all those energies working with you and for you so that you go, okay, this isn’t working. What’s a better way to do this? And I think that’s the key component.

Maryalice Goldsmith:

Yeah, no, for sure. In fact, in module five, we have a workbook for our students. And in that workbook, it’s all about scaling the business, right? Because where your business is today, it’s not going to be in that same place a year from now, right? You’re going to mature, your business is going to mature. And so evolution just naturally happens. And so one of the things that we talk about is protecting your energy in that workbook. It’s doing a full assessment on your business of what gives you energy, what do you have to do to run the business? It gives you energy, what do you have to do to run the business? But it drains your energy. So for an example, if you’re a speaker, you kind of have to speak, right?

How does this apply to speakers?

Angie Besignano:

If you want a successful speaking business, you have to speak now.

Maryalice Goldsmith:

For some people that drains their energy, they do it, but it could be energy draining. Well, that’s not something you’re going to be able to delegate. You’re a speaker, you have to speak. However, if you do social media for your business and it absolutely drains your energy, that’s something you can delegate, right? And so it’s this whole energy model and the reason why we talk about it is because of what you just said.

Protecting your energy, being truth, giving your energy the truth it deserves or the voice it deserves is totally okay, we’re not going to like doing everything in our business, that’s totally fine. But getting honest with yourself and understanding that this 1000% drains my energy and it takes away from the things that I need to be doing and I love to be doing is so critical to the growth of the business.

Angie Besignano:

And you’ll know when you get there.

Maryalice Goldsmith:

Because you’ll be at your desk and you’ll be working and you’ll say, I hate doing that. Hate it, right? And we say, jot that down.

Notice the things that drain you.

Angie Besignano:

Whatever you hate doing, jot it down.

Maryalice Goldsmith:

Because that’s going to be your first hire. But this is why this conversation is so important. Because when you first start a business, you’re all the things. You are the finance department, you’re the marketing department, you’re the sales department, filmment department, your customer service, you’re everything that’s not sustainable long term. And so practicing this in your everyday life gives you this keen awareness about your overall energy. And it will help you run a much more successful business because you’ll be so clear on the things that you love to do that give you energy and so clear on the things that you have to do that zap your energy. So that’s all in module five. So I just wanted to touch on that because it’s really important to make you laugh.

Angie Besignano:

Because I was just saying this to a couple of people today, like back in 2008, and I know this is going to be a shocker, I built my first website, WordPress, on my own. It took me three months. Why? Listen, I was ready to throw the computer, the house, the dog, the cat, the chair, the desk out the window. Why? Because I don’t love it, don’t enjoy it, I don’t learn it really well. But because like you said, I was all things to my changing at that time. I was shifting my business from just coaching into speaking as well. And I was like, I need to do this. I need to make my lip.

Oh yeah. I was all full of venom and vigor to start with and like day two I was ready to jump because it just isn’t a good place for me. But I pushed through. But guess what? I also made the commitment that going forward, it cost me so much more in time and energy. And you know what? I almost quit. That is not an untrue story. I literally was like, you know what? If this is what this takes, maybe I’m just not cut out for this. And that was a lie, right? What I needed was somebody who knew how to do it much more efficiently so that I could focus on what really lights me up, which is content creation, delivery of content, doing discovery calls.

That is amazing.

Maryalice Goldsmith:

Right?

Angie Besignano:

That is like, oh my gosh, I could fly to the moon. I don’t even have a rocket. But if you ask me to build another website, I’m quitting. But I learned myself, right? I learned that even when I know how to do it and I taught myself, I don’t want to do that. It’s too much of a dream.

Maryalice Goldsmith:

Well, I think that’s the big thing. And for people who are listening saying, yeah, but I can’t delegate that stuff right now, that’s okay. I think just mentally creating a list of things that you will delegate, empowers you to push through and understand that when you do fill in the blank, the thing that you can’t stand doing, you need to build in. Some time to maybe go for a walk or go to your boxing class so you could punch a bag. I don’t know, do something that’s going to fill your cup or have lunch date with your friend or partner or whatever. But this is the kind of stuff that we’re talking about.

If the boat is going to stay stable when you know it starts to capsize, when you do social media or when you have to do a big workshop, you know, like energetically, you’re going to be zapped, you have to make sure on the other side of that you have something that fills your energetic cup. That’s what this is about, right? Looking at those four areas, those four foundational pieces of energy, and making sure, number one, you know what that means for you because we’re all different.

And number two, that you know when you’re going to be zapping portions of those areas, you have something on the other side that’s going to fill it up. Because being an entrepreneur really requires a ton of energy. A ton of energy. But you’re more than just an entrepreneur, right? We’re husbands and wives and sisters and brothers and friends and all the things. And so making sure that you find that balance and making sure you understand what fills your energy is so critical to this. I’ve loved this conversation. I’d love to know if you have any last thoughts or things that you feel our people need to hear.

Final thoughts on energy management?

Angie Besignano:

Well, I think the one quick thing that I would add to that is to your point, and I said it earlier, our positive energy compounds, those positive habits compound. The other side of it is, so does that negative, and we have to be aware of that. So if you’re trying to drill in the negative thing that is really sapping your energy and you’re not changing it, other things are going to fall with it. It’s compounding in that same way. So there needs to be an awareness that, like, brings about, like so if it’s great, you’re going to bring in more of that. If it’s not so great, you’re going to bring in more of that. And that’s where that self assessment becomes important. Like, you said the baby.

Well, if you’re bringing home a baby and this business is your new baby, then you need to have a support system in place. And then you tweak it, you see what works and what maybe doesn’t work. But that’s really it.

Maryalice Goldsmith:

Yeah. No, this is awesome. It’s a great conversation. It’s probably one of the conversations that get very overlooked and why we include it in our no one to scale workbook for our students because the businesses that don’t make it, it’s because of this energy piece. Because like you said, the compounding effect weighs so heavily, physically, emotionally, spiritually, intellectually on people that they just don’t think that they can go on. And so really, getting in touch with this is critical. And as you grow. What’S the ebb. And flow of this energy and what can you control and what do you have to kind of wait on? Building a business, you do. You have to get some new scrapes along the way, you have to get dirty, and you have to have those low lows to have those high, high highs.

Angie Besignano:

Right.

Maryalice Goldsmith:

But understanding this is really important for the sustainability of you, especially if you are the brand.

Angie Besignano:

Right?

Maryalice Goldsmith:

There’s no brand without you. So understanding this is really important. So you’re awesome. Thank you so much for bringing this. Really appreciate your time. If you’re listening and you’re a student, we hope you have an awesome day.If you’re listening and you’re not a student, we hope you also have an awesome day. But we also hope that you head over to thespeakerlab.com and book a strategy call. If you’re looking to be a speaker, this is the place to be. Angie, thanks so much for being here today.

Angie Besignano:

Thanks, Maryalice.

Maryalice Goldsmith:

Have a great day.